Well, it’s that time of year again. The time where we look back and reflect on the past year.
And for me, it’s been a doozy. I‘ve had wins, I’ve had losses, and everything in between.
This would be an excellent time to look back and lament over all the things I’ve lost this year. My marriage, my own space, my old life. But, I’m not going to do that. I CHOOSE not to do that. I have every right to complain about how many things I’ve lost. But I won’t.
Because I refuse to let those things win.
I said that my thirties would be the best decade of my life so far.
And I meant it.
So today, instead of looking back on all the negatives, I want to focus on the positives.
The first win I want to celebrate is the start of this new decade in my life! 30! They say your thirties are like your twenties, but with money. And that is ringing true so far. I have much more financial freedom now. And that’s honestly such a huge stress off me.
Another win from this year is that I reconnected with an old school friend. We’d known each other since 4th grade but lost touch when we went to different colleges. We reconnected over social media and grabbed a coffee together and now it’s a monthly thing! It’s honestly one of the highlights of my month. We spend at least three hours in a coffee shop, just chatting away. It’s like no time has passed at all.
I’m also proud of myself for getting my health back on track. This past year and a half, I was so stressed out in my marriage, I turned to food and sugary drinks to cope. Not my proudest moment.
But now, I’m working out regularly, have been for the past six months. I’ve cut out sugary drinks almost entirely and instead replaced them with water. And that’s a pretty big deal for me since I really don’t like the taste of water. But I’m learning to appreciate it and I refuse to look back to the days of sugar overload. I’ve also cut out unhealthy snacking, only eating when I’m actually hungry. I’m done looking to food to fill an emotional void instead of facing it myself.
Along with regular working out, I’ve picked up better self care habits altogether: better skincare, regular hair maintenance, meditating, waking up earlier - all things I’ve added to my regular routines to improve myself.
I’m not settling for mediocre anymore. I deserve so much better than that.
And guess what? SO DO YOU.
Today’s Takeaway
You deserve to give yourself the best version of you. You deserve to have someone who will show up for you everyday, and who better to do that than the one person who’s been through it all with you.
Today, I want to encourage you to show up for YOU. Be your best self for YOU. Not anyone else. Not to be more attractive to a potential partner, not to brag to others, no. Decide that you deserve better and then give yourself that better.
Here’s to a New Year and to new beginnings!
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